patterns repeat and the cycle continues
this is a post from one of Carmina's "friends" in N. C. I wonder if this woman was able to read my blog or only heard Carmina's version on why I ended our "friendship". I feel bad for these people but even worse for Zane and as my husband says for us if Carmina and family really are headed back this way. I really was hoping my message to Carmina in the previous post would have some effect, especially the part where I begged her to get help and pleaded with her not to do this to another "friend", I see now that again, I am totally and 100% justified in ending my relationship with her as she hasn't and doesn't sound like she will ever change. Sad!
February 23, 2006- Crybaby huh?
As everyone knows, we had an issue recently with some people whom we thought were friends. Joe and I are very easy to get along with and generally overly-trusting people. This always seems to bite us in the butt. Since some of you knew the people we are talking about, we haven't posted any nasty blogs. Since they have, I decided to respond to them on my own page so that they couldnt delete any comments I had to say about them. Warning: this is gonna get ugly. So stop reading now if you dont want to know any more.A couple we met a few months ago, we really liked. We overlooked some of their flaws and hung out with them quite a bit. Even welcomed them into our "inner circle" group of swingers. When we learned they were moving to Colorado we were sad to see them go, but we had no problems at that point. We planned a Going away party for this Sat. We helped them move furniture and let them store some in our garage. We even found a temporary home for one of their dogs while they stayed with some other friends. So imagine our surprise last weekend when another couple we know dropped by the house where they were staying with the other couple we have known almost a year, and the entire place was empty?I understand moving from your rental home and leaving it so dirty the landlord will have to probably replace the floors in every room. (Seriously it looks like squatters loved there) I understand running from the law, your bills, never returning library books, not returning your cable box..etc. Those are personal choices that I DO NOT agree with but didnt really care about. What I do care about is leaving and not telling your friends. Then the other couple they were staying with MOVED WITH THEM! You think they called anyone and let them know? What about the party we were planning? Guess friendship means nothing to you that you dont feel you even had to say goodbye before you moved across the country. Now, having said that...I am a very peaceful person. Never had problems with anyone Ive met in life. My husband is the greatest guy I could ever ask for and we are by no means perfect.
HOWEVER, we dont run like cowards, telling everyone it was the best for our family to skip town. How about all the bill collectors that are looking for you? They provide services so that you will pay them, they arent charities. The landlord is going to have to hire a cleaning service and trash dumpster to clean up your rental house.
Furthermore, I will respond to the blog entry from Carm. Don't FUCK with my husband.
Her blog": (my responses are in red)Can we say over reaction? omg i had no idea that the people we know are such spazzes. let me outline a few things for you guys, we moved in hopes of making a better life for our famillys, we did it in secret cause we figured there would be some reprecussions and drama none of us wanted to deal with i, (gee i wonder why we would have thought there might be bad reactions?) This means, they knew we would be pissed because they dumped their dog on us. Even though they "promised" us they were taking him with them and would pick him up before they left. everyone needs to stop it. in response to whoever put the stupid comment up on joes blog that i shouldnt just toss my pets away cause i am tired and i should act like a responsible adult, may kiss my ass, there is no way i am going to sit in north carolina in a hotel looking for a home for a dog i had less than a month, not when it would affect my famillys welbeing. that is really key here, i like my friends but i love my familly, and anyone who cant understand that is a complete moron. Dogs arent throw away items. We are animal lovers and of course you wouldnt care about him being abandoned. You also wouldnt understand responsibility but I already knew that. the veiled thereats are messed up and show the absolute level of stupidity in the whole thing. the nasty calls to uninvolved people is also not right, i mean would you all like it if i called up your moms and discussed the contents of the partys? prolly not, calling my mother in law was low and uncalled for, We called the only number in colorado we had for someone in attempts of finding out if u guys were really there. Since nobody told us what the hell was going on, we had no clue where u were or why Dave and Marie disappeared too. By the way, I will give you my mom and Joes mom's numbers so that you can call them. They know ALL about the parties. calling that wretched bitch keri and informing her as to d&m whereabouts was also low and stupid. and why????????? cause your crybaby ass is mad over no one saying goodbye and because of a 30$ debt and a dog you ought to take to the fricking pound and have done with as a normal adult would do, and as i actually plannned to do. We were played like fools, we trusted everyone and they treat us like this. We only heard one side of the story from the relationship they had with Kari. She knew they were planning to move before we even called her. Aparantly a kid in school told them one of the kids were asking about withdraw procedures. (over a month ago) Also we are adults and can talk to whomever we choose. The debit and the dog issue we honestly never expected you to fulfill. i hate that good people got hurt but the more i go along with this the less i am sad about others cause true friends ( a phrase that keeps being bandied about like "true friends" is the ultimate commitment and be all end all of importance, taking precedence over familly) anyway true friends would look at the fact that here we can all make money not just the guys and here our kids can have things and our house can be decent and not a pos slummy dump. YOU CHOSE TO KEEP YOUR HOUSE A SLUMMY DUMP. Cleaning the house is what makes it nice. Obviously something you dont do. I work 70 hours a week and manage to keep my house somewhat clean. There is no excuse for general laziness. Want me to post photos how the house looked after you guys moved? I dont think so. We know who will do all the cleaning in the new house and it certainly isnt you. Your kids will have a better life if you teach them some responsibility. RETURNING library books, not distroying everything they touch, parents who work to pay all their bills and dont hide from the law. (Kris did work very hard and Im not saying anything bad about that.) so for those of you who have been understanding and seem to get it i love ya and appreciate the adult manner in which you have taken this, and for the others why dont you get some help, and look at the foul ass way you are acting and try to decide what it is that was done to you, and maybe if you do that you will see why you werent trustworthy enough to be told what was up before the move.
We were trustworthy enough to be friends with you, brought you medicine when you were sick, shared our friends with you, so much more. SO WHY? So you could stab us in the back. Joe is the most wonderful man in this world. He was very hurt by all this and Im tired of standing back and being a doormat for everyone. I know everyone will want to comment and post blogs filled with lies, etc. DONT CARE. If you dont like what you are reading. FUCK OFF AND LEAVE US ALONE.
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Sexyba... Offline
I called Kris's mom Kitty who was VERY polite. She even offered to contact some animal rescues for me. I told her I understand she has no control over what her family does and all I'm asking is help placing the dog. She said OK. I will say even thought I'm sure he does not like me now, Kris has Always been polite to me and my family and I showed due respect to his. WE ARE DONE WITH THIS ISSUE. Live your lives in peace and we will to.
Thursday February 23, 2006 - 07:44am (EST)
inked_... Offline
Wow it's sounds like you guys got used and abused, I am sorry that happend. And granted I don't know all that went on, but I have a pretty good idea from shelly's blog, but anyone who just up and leaves there pets...well i understand things come up but the "adult" thing to do would be call the pound and have them come pick the animal up before you leave town, or hell call from your new city. As far as debts go, well I will be the first to tell ya, If I had all the money people owed me back I could retire. It's very sad that you two got taken advantage of. You are such great people. And whats even sadder about this whole mess, is that you seem like you would do anything in the world for your close friends and the next time one of your friends need something, you may reflect back on this bad time, and decide you don't want the hassle. And I wouldn't blame you at all, I guess that old saying is true, when you play with fire you'r apt to be burned. Not that you were aware that this situation was fire, but it was just an analogy lol.
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