Can you send me the link to your blog? Carmina doesn't want me to see it and I would like to know why she doesn't want me to see it.


Kathe
To kathe
Re: Blog
Have u seen her swingers blog? I can only assume that you prob. Haven't and that is why she doesn't want you to read mine as I took excerpts from her swingers blog and posted them in response to messages she was posting on my blog. I found her blog by going to yahoo and searching for her user name gemomni74. She mentioned me several times on it even though I had stopped all contact with her in october. I was very offended by some of the things she was saying and the dramatic, "I've been such a good friend to her yet she has never done anything for me" tone of it all that I posted a link to my blog (as a comment) on her swingers blog and posted 2 of her last mean emails to me on my blog so that these new "friends" of hers could see just how "there for me" carmina always was. She erased the link of course and proceeded to write in her blog how I made up lies about her on my blog when the only thing I had posted that mentioned her at all were the two emails from her, no comments or anything from me. The worst part was that she kept making posts on her swingers blog saying that I wouldn't leave her alone, so I posted my email to you the one where I told you that I wanted to keep in contact with andrea but had no intention of continuing my relationship with carmina and why. So she posted a big message about how she had tried to be my friend etc, etc and made it sound like I she was having to end our relationship, etc, etc so I copied that and a pretty mean post about the swinger parties they go to on my blog and wrote, good luck with your new friends. And put a link to my blog as a comment on her blog because she was saying that I should feel free to post my side of this, etc etc on her blog but even though I had not written one thing about all of this in my blog other that posting her own emails and the one I wrote to you in oct, she deleated the link and continued to post on her blog like I wouldn't respond to her on her own blog but was telling lies about her on my blog (but wouldn't leave the comment with the link to my blog or supply a link to my blog herself) So long drawn out drama, excuse filled story...exactly what I hope to not have in my life anymore hence my ending of my relationship with carmina in the first place, I finally responded on my blog and let all of my feelings and beliefs and opinions about some of the worst of what I have witness during my relationship with carmina come spilling forth. What was sad is what I wrote was only the tip of the iceburg because I honestly don't think she could handle hearing all of it and as much as I would like to believe that she might actually admit that what I wrote is true and start to see the destructive patterns in her life and maybe be motivated to try to change them, ...I know the odds of her actually doing so are almost nonexistant so I only put what directly related to me and what finally drove me to end our relationship. Even though what I wrote was ment to upset her enough to get her to leave me alone, I really didn't want to hurt her, shock her into seeing some facts about her life and maybe quit pretending that all of the problems were caused by others, maybe. I really believe that I was being honest 100% in what I wrote kathe and that is what matters most to me.I could tell you some of the unflattering things she wrote about in her swingers blog that impact you directly but that is not my business and I don't want to get involved in a childish game of he said, she said which is exactly the kind of thing carmina always tries to start. I actually don't want to be involved with anything that has anything to do with carmina anymore, which is sad because from reading her own blog, I have to admit to myself that if I met her today, the person she has become and the life she is leading, I would want nothing to do with her. I read my emails from my other friends and what they are doing in their lives and realize that carmina isn't even in the same stratosphere as them, I don't mean just finacially like carmina will assume, but I mean in maturity, stability, and most importantly in reaching their goals, heck by even having realistic goals and by actually working on plans and actively taking the steps to make those goals a reality, most of my other friends have left carmina emotionally and lifestyle wise back in junior high. I have know most of these people since high school and a few since grade school and again even though carmina will want to believe that they have all had much better childhoods, opportunities, and support systems than she had, she would be wrong in may cases. Almost everyone I know has had to overcome major roadblocks in their life and had people in their lives that tried to sabotage them at one point or throughout it all. Carmina may want to belive that she is the only victim in this world but the only difference between her and the millions of successful people out there is that they were will to do the work that it took to succeed and if they found they were unable to or didn't know what to do, they got help. That help could be education, mental health, physical, or even finacial but they got it and in most cases had to EARN that help, it wasn't just handed to them like carmina wants to belive. Heck carmina tells people that everything was handed to me but she forgets to tell them that I worked 2 jobs most of my life, that I worked full time through every degree I have ever earned, including nursing school and how I worked 6 days a week at saint anthonys for almost 6 years to buy the furniture, etc that I have now. She also doesn't think about how I am having to work extra shifts while preg. So I can buy baby supplies and have enough saved up to even be able to afford to take any sort of maternity leave. I don't sit and dwell on these things, I am too busy living my life and working to better my life to sit immobile and feel sorry for myself. I also feel I have wasted too much time on this whole carmina mess and I really hope this is the end of it. I did want to explain myself to you as I am sure you have been hearing her spin doctored version of what really went on for months. I think she has hidden her blog from view now but I will send you a link to my blog which has a link to her page and friends list where you will find kris's blog also. I do hope that you and andrea are doing well and know that I have no anger towards either of you. I must say again, and I know after u see what carminas new lifestyle entails, you will understand why I am so happy that andrea has u in her life as a role model and support system. I will say that I hope you strongly reconsider things before u send her back to carmina this summer as she was saying that was the plan on her blog.I also must forwarn you that I will prob post this on my blog but you knew that already.Anna