"Hello everyone,
I joined another group that I thought would bring me more information. I like to read as much as I can about the RNY surgery since I'm hoping to have that one in January. Within a day, I realized the moderater of the group is a huge advocate for NO WLS. Please clarify if you can some of the things she has been saying. I'm interested in long term effacts of RNY. I'm 29 and I have 2 small kids, I want to be around for a very long time.
Anyway, the moderator was saying that 95% of WLS patients gained ALL of their weight back after 10 years. Thoughs who did not gain their weight back were mostly sick. She did not offer any hard evidence of this, just sort of said it!
Please if you can, point me in the direction of factual information for patients longterm. She said most people don't get sick until they are 10 years out when the body no longer has vitaims stored up and that's when the real complications begin. Is this true?
Please help me understand!! Thanks!!!"
My response;
I tried for years to get my rny. I met several people through those years that had had surgery and bar none..they all said, you have to follow the rules or it only works for the first 6 months to a year. It isn't a magic cure. We had to take classes where post ops that were both failures and winners came to talk to us. I will never forget one woman who weighed about 200 pounds (she was still down from almost 400lbs). She said, "I have been fat all of my life so when the guy didn't want to go out with me, people didn't like me, I couldn't get the job, I could always blame my weight. Then I had this surgery, and I lost over 200 pounds. But the guys still didn't like me, I still couldn't get the job, and I still didn't make friends. Worst of all, this surgery had taken away the one thing that gave me pleasure, eating." This woman freely admitted that she ate ice cream while sitting on the toilet (because it made her dump) and that she no longer cared about following the rules, she just wanted to eat. I know that is an extreme example but there are people out there that think this surgery is going to change their lives, magically with little or no effort from them. The truth is, it can change your life, it can be that catalyst to make positive dreams a reality, but it is going to take some work. You also have to face the reasons that you were overweight in the first place. I am still dealing with stress eating at 9 months out. I still have to make myself exercise and I am realizing that with time, I am able to eat more so I have to manage my portions. This surgery has helped me and my husband feel and look so much better but it doesn't solve all of your problems or change how you deal with them, only you can do that. We are all/were overweight for some reason. My mother told me once, "once you figure out what purpose that extra weight is serving for you, you will be able to deal with it and choose to let it go." I thought that was some super self righteous garbage when she said it but it is true. I don't like attention from men. It is true. My weight helped keep that away. I realize that now. It is weird and has to do with time I spent in the middle east but it is part of my make up. I also choose food as my drug of choice for dealing with stress. Now that I have realized these things about myself, it doesn't mean that they go away. I have to work on not reverting back to old behaviors everyday. I have met many people, I have a home health client right now that was one of the first rny's ever done, that have been and continue to be very successful but they all follow the rules and work at it. It can be done.
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