Fw: Live on the Diagonal

Unfortunately, as usual, I'm sure Greg is right about this...

Read on,

Fuzz-Bob

----- Original Message -----

Sent: Sunday, August 07, 2005 5:19 PM

Subject: Re: Live on the Diagonal

Young Luke,

Thanks for the kudos. Don't presume that Granny is able to complete
anything on her own yet, including the trash sort. So you will need to
look at that activity as a continuation of the move, with your
personal involvement being critical to trash sort completion.

And Granny is and will be oblivious to the need for boundaries in the
new multi generational trailer park of life. So it's back to you,
number one son, to set, articulate, and reinforce the concept. I would
start with getting your key back from Granny right away. That
will demonstrate to Anna that you are on the boundary case. You and
Anna need to develop very specific boundaries. For example, unlimited
day and night drop ins are not ok. Perhaps you schedule regular times
to be together, a couple of times a week or whatever. You will need to
tweek as you go. I fear it's going to take you more than one session to
have Cheryl understand that while Anna loves her, Anna needs her space.
I'm in town for two weeks if y'all would like to talk to me more about
the boundary waters.

It was great to see you in the Outback. Let me know when you have your
Primus karaoke medley worked up.

O. B. Juan

--
Greg

> -------------- Original message --------------

> Hello again,

> I was a little too fuzzy last night to articulate this properly, but I
> wanted to make a point of letting you know that your dialog on the
> phone with Anna really helped get her on board and increased her
> willingness, I think, to suggest the offer of getting Granny to move
> down here. Unfortunately (but foreseeably), the whole process has
> created a new set of problems of competition between Anna and Granny,
> and Anna is having a hard time settling into this new arrangement, but
> it just started, and I think things will shake out rather comfortably.

> I told her about last night, and she was trying to suggest that we
> might come down and see you so that you might re-iterate certain points
> of that discussion, particularly the parts about 'setting boundaries'.
> I think that she is afraid that I won't set appropriate boundaries with
> my mom now that she lives right next door. We had to talk about the
> fact that we HAD to move all of the junk out of that house to avoid
> leaving a huge mess for someone else to clean up (they will have a
> large enough mess to clean up as it is...) and that it will take my mom
> a couple of months to sort out the good stuff and throw the junk away,
> and most of what she keeps will still look like junk to Anna, as her
> standards are rather snootier than my mom's. This is not to say that
> we wouldn't come and see you, but just that she is impatient and she
> wanted my mom to get rid of all of that junk before moving, but of
> course there's no trash service up there, and the 'clearing' process is
> just as much internal for Granny as it is external. I told her about
> our discussion re: 'the next step is teeth', and that I am hoping that
> we can start talking about htat one before Xmas.

> Anyway, I still might have to take her to karaoke night and see if
> she'll get up and do any Madonna tunes. Maybe she (or I) will get
> hooked and... well, stranger things have happened, I guess.

> SO, no big deal, I just wanted to give credit where credit is due, and
> wish you a good trip into the Heartland --> Okoboji, that is...

> YW

>> ----- Original Message -----

>> Sent: Thursday, August 04, 2005 3:30 PM

>> Subject: Re: Live on the Diagonal

>> Young Will,

>> Granny out of the Shining in the middle of the night in the rain!
>> Great work young Jedi! I wasn't planning to invite your Mother to
>> the show on Saturday night.

>> GT

>> --
>> Greg

>>> -------------- Original message --------------

>>> Hola-

>>> Not only will I be able to return your book, I'll be able to tell you
>>> all about moving Granny Clampett out of the mountains and into her
>>> new 'retirement villa' right down the row from me at the Sans Souci
>>> Mobile Home Park.

>>> She doesn't have live phone there yet; with the stress of the move,
>>> she completely neglected to call the phone and satellite
>>> utility companies; I don't know when she'll have her phone switched.

>>> She and I returned from the Shining last night at about 2am in the
>>> rain with the final truckloads that I will be assisting her with. I
>>> would've called later today, but I suppose this works, too. I will
>>> inform her of the event, as well. Unfortunately, Anna will be at
>>> work that evening and will be unable to attend, I'm sure.

>>> Technically, this could all be evidence of further enabling behavior
>>> from moi, but it is done and mostly successfully so far.

>>> Talk to you later, (and if not before then, I'll see you Saturday)

>>> Will

>>>> ----- Original Message -----

>>>> Sent: Thursday, August 04, 2005 9:20 AM

>>>> Subject: Live on the Diagonal

>>>> I will be in the karoake house Saturday night at the Outback (not
>>>> the steakehouse) at 28th and the Diagonal in Boulder starting at 9
>>>> PM. Y'all are invited, and this would be a user friendly moment to
>>>> honor your commitment and return my book.

>>>> Greg

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